“I’m frustrated on your behalf that that is the majority of what you are hearing, and rarely do you hear someone pointing you to God as the designer and provider of romantic love and marriage. If I had not been reading the Bible and letting Holy Spirit teach me God’s ways in the romantic, I would have lived out those 34 years in desperation and compromise, missing out on the greatest and purpose-filled love encounter waiting for me to experience.”

“I get sad when I look across the horizon of the American Dating culture and watch people trying to fit themselves together, missing out on simple and pure friendships, and gaining in the rewards of being with God alone. God, our Perfect Father, in us and over us is watching us do this without listening to His lead. Oh, how His heart must ache as He already knows where this kind of self-reliant activity will lead you.”

June 1st marks a revolutionary day for the two of us. June 1st is the day God chose to reveal to Gary that I was His choice for him.

I wish I could tell you he melted before me at that moment, swept me off my feet, and carried me to the altar for “I do’s” before the sunset.

Does that sound puzzling, the Single’s advantage in marriage? I hope so. My aim is to get us thinking about the advantages our time being single gives us advantages for the benefit of marriage. Everybody is destined to be single. EVERYBODY. Most singles experience desires for a marital companion. Desiring to not be alone is a holy desire God Himself stirred in the first man who stands as a blueprint for the rest of humanity. The Genesis 2 story shows us the divine set up of desire stirred by God and God’s provision for it in Eve. God provides for the desires we share with Him. Simple math, right?