Fitting One Another

For many of us, the dreams and purposes planted within us are divinely inspired. These dreams will reach their fullest potential when we unite with the right person in marriage. But what do we mean by the “right person”? The right person is the one God reveals to you. Your earthly purpose is unique and won’t align with just anyone. It’s far better to spend your single days pursuing your dreams with God than to settle for a relationship that doesn’t support your calling—or worse, pulls you away from it.

Years ago, I met a young woman from Florida. She was attending school in Illinois, and during one of our conversations, she said something that caught my attention. She told me she wasn’t interested in boyfriends; she wanted her husband to be the man God had chosen for her. This kind of conviction wasn’t something I often heard, even within the American church. Like her, I believed in a divinely orchestrated partnership, so her words made me wonder: Could she be the one for me? I had considered this question many times before and had learned not to rush in. So instead of dating her, I prayed, asking God to reveal whether she was the right person for me.

Then something unexpected happened—she disappeared. For months, there was no trace of her. My prayers about her being "the one" slowly faded, and eventually, I accepted this as God’s answer. But He wasn’t finished yet.

One day, that long-lost friend reappeared—only this time, she wasn’t alone. She was engaged! Was I disappointed? Not at all. I knew my purpose required a partner who shared my passion for the gospel, and while my friend believed similarly, her dreams were different from mine. She had used her time of singleness to prepare for her purpose, and she was about to marry someone whose dreams aligned perfectly with hers. Seeing her with her fiancé, I was genuinely happy for her.

In just nine days, Kim and I will release our story, Violets in the Snow. It will reveal how God carefully orchestrated our lives, aligning our paths and dreams in a way only He could. Not only did He redeem our broken romantic dreams, but He also transformed our lives and purposes through it all. By committing to knowing God and pursuing His purpose for us, we avoided unnecessary heartbreaks and recognized each other as the “right one” in His timing.

So if you’re waiting, commit to knowing and fulfilling your purpose. Trust Him to do what only He can do, and He will lead you to the person who complements your calling. It’s the best way to protect your heart and recognize the right one when they arrive.